Unforgiveness is a big deal! It is often a huge boulder standing in the way of your true freedom. By far, it’s one of the enemy’s biggest vices we often fall prey to. The Bible is very clear about forgiving. Holding on to anger and bitterness only hurts us. Why is it so hard?
When it comes to abortion there is plenty of unforgiveness to go around. Perhaps the most difficult is forgiving ourselves. In the hundreds of women that I have walked through healing journeys with, this is always the toughest hurdle. It is hard! It seems impossible, and almost righteous. Somehow punishing ourselves just seems right.
I get it, I’ve been there. But our God is so good... it makes me want to cry! Tears of joy!! What is impossible for us is more than possible with God! And the very thing the enemy uses to destroy us, God will use to fuel our purpose and passion.
If we let him, God will use our pain to empower and equip us as healing vessels for others. We cannot pour from an empty cup. Unforgiveness will suck you dry. It is hatred and bitterness, guilt and shame that keep us from being filled with grace and mercy and love and compassion… all the things that God has for us (and wants us to give away)! When this happens, we become useless in His Kingdom. We are empty vessels.
Forgiveness does not minimize the issue. Forgiving does not make it go away. It does open the door for God to move in. When we forgive others, we allow Jesus to exchange our bitterness for compassion. The same is true for ourselves. We have to intentionally see ourselves the way Jesus does!
Forgiveness requires compassion. When we show compassion for others, we commit to practicing love and kindness in the face of struggle. Self-compassion requires the same. Unlike dealing with others, when it comes to ourselves there’s no place to go. Our pain is a constant reminder of our guilt. We have to recognize our own pain, acknowledge the darkness and be OK with the discomfort. And it’s in the darkness where the light of Christ will break through. “His light broke through the darkness and he led us out in freedom from death’s dark shadow and snapped every one of our chains.” Psalm 107:14 I Believe this verse beautifully describes what happens when we forgive.
Forgiveness is an act of your will, a divine act. It releases an inner freedom that leads to peace. We often play a Matthew West song called Forgiveness in our group studies. Such a beautiful song. He says “the prisoner that it really frees is you!” So true!
If unforgiveness, in any area of your life is haunting you, we would like to help you. Please contact us. Freedom is available, Christ died for it!